Thursday, December 5, 2013

It's okay for parenthood to be hard

I had a friend recently post something about feeling sorry for people that think taking care of their kids is hard.  I immediately felt a pang of mom guilt.  I do think taking care of Dawson is hard.

I started to think about it and I wondered why that's not okay? Why would someone feel sorry for me? There are a lot of moments that I don't like parenthood.  There, I said it.  It doesn't make me love Dawson ANY less.  

I also think you can't judge another mother until you walk in their shoes. Every kid is different.  For example- Was giving up the bottle hard for us? Nope, quite easy.  That doesn't mean I should think less of a mom that struggles to take the bottle (or boob) away from their little one.  There are so many different factors about parenting that I don't think you can lump everyone into any one category. Some kids take things easily, some don't.  Same for us moms.  

Everyone has different struggles as a parent.  Some people deal with it with grace and a smile on their face and that's great.  I deal with it with tears sometimes and frustration.. and a call to my mom to shout "He won't go to sleep! I think he is trying to kill me!" Kidding.. but not really. 

So just because it's not easy for me, doesn't mean you need to feel sorry for me.  My life isn't miserable, it's just hard sometimes.  I wish as moms (and just as people, hello?!) that we could see that  it's not always black and white.  

4 comments:

  1. Add me to the list of moms they feel sorry for. Being a mom is freaking hard, exhausting and frustrating. I believe if every thing is easy than 1) your not doing it right or 2) you are really really really lucky.

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    1. Amen!! Or you are in complete denial :) I sometimes wonder how many moms aren't really telling the truth because they don't want to be judged. I have always been pretty honest about it being rough, but it have found that's more often than not, not want people want to hear. Keep it real!

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  2. Great post! I have two boys so parenting is never easy in my house :) One of them is always doing something or fighting etc. I think there are very few moms that have it easy as a mom, they just fake it better than the rest of us! I get the moms in the store that give me the evil eye when my two boys aren't acting perfectly. Two boys never act like angels when they are together!!

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    1. Two boys sounds like a rowdy roller coaster! I get people that look at me like that in the store regularly.. Dawson is a runner and a fit thrower. I just say "he's 2" and leave it at that. :)

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